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Broken Promises

April 26, 2014

I recently was at a wedding where the minister had everyone in the audience turn to their spouse and say, “I still love you.”

It reminded me of how easily we make and break commitments in our modern culture.

We all know the epidemic of broken promises involving marriage, but even in simple things we like to keep our options open.

How many times do we agree to do something or go somewhere knowing full well it is till “a better option” presents itself?

In the missions organization where I work, I frequently see young people make 2 year commitments until a better option comes. Then, conveniently, they get a new “word from the Lord” or God tell them to break the commitment.

It makes God look like a schizophrenic. At best, He is portrayed as a weak, easily persuaded, “flip-flopper”.

I’ve spent the last 21 years working in a primarily short-term missions organization, Youth With a Mission (YWAM). I’ve seen countless lives ¬†wrecked for the ordinary as they served others through missions.

This is the premise of Jeff Goins’ recent book.

Wrecked: When a Broken World Slams into your Comfortable Life

The most powerful moment of the book came in Chapter 6 where Jeff essentially asks the following question:

Why does a “wrecked” experience so often lead to a future inability to commit?


This is a chapter everyone in my organization needs to read.

He begins the discussion with an attention grabbing statement. “An unchecked dissatisfaction with the status quo will lead to a reckless lifestyle of bouncing from one thrill-seeking adventure to the next with little commitment to a place or a person.”