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You really should have done it this way…

We are always critiquing our food, finding ways to make it better.

The local church we attend is often the focal point of the “should have’s and could have’s”. I mean if they would just take our ideas everything would be perfect, right!?

We are a people who desire to innovate, improve, and enhance.

At its root, this is very Biblical. When God gave us dominion over the planet, we were tasked with improving it and making it better. Technology is a godly thing as we advance.

But should have’s can get us in trouble.

My family dinner table growing up was like this. Even if we fully enjoyed a meal, we would speak of all the things which could be done to improve it

I thought this was true of all families till I got married and began “improving” my wife’s meals.

A Marriage Boost

June 7, 2014

Even the best of couples can use an occasional marriage boost.

Maybe it has been a long time since you’ve had a “just you” date or getaway.
Perhaps your family outings have been just that.
Or it just may be the busyness of everyday life.

You sense your marriage could use a boost. Things aren’t even that bad, or perhaps they are even better than they used to be.

I have a good, easy reading, book for you (even the guys will like it.)

In my reading habits, I am always looking to sharpen my skills or read things which challenge me in my key relationships.

This focus leads me to often read books on spiritual growth and leadership. Currently, I find myself in a different season where I am reading more books focused on my key relationships, covering the topics of parenting and marriage.

Recently I heard a team leader of a communication team wanting to protect his first year staff from sitting under too many seasoned, veteran speakers so as not to feel a sense of insecurity. While I can appreciate the pastoral nature of this leadership, I disagree with it from a long-range perspective. If your young communicators or leaders are not exposed to experienced mentors, the bar will remain low. As the years roll by your product, will be reduced to a lower common denominator.

In other words, if young communicators cannot see someone to emulate and be challenged to advance, they will never reach their potential. There is a certain degree of insecurity in youth which shows us how much we need to grow.

In this lies the process of self-evaluation. Speakers must watch techniques of others to learn and grow. We all need to see ways in which we can improve.

“Leadership is not an event, it is a practice.”

It is the “daily little things where we practice putting the well-being of others before ourselves.”

Simon Sinek, speaking at a recent Leadercast event said this. He is the author of Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action and Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t. I have not read these books, but they are being added to my list after hearing him at Leadercast.

Sinek shared the story of the Marine Corp, where it is well-known the officers always eat last. They put the needs of their troops ahead of their own. It was this story which became the basis for his recent book.

He shared other examples of how this is played out (and where it is not)

The Power of Perspective

February 5, 2014

We recently had guests visit the nation we serve in. It’s always refreshing to see and hear things through other people’s eyes. It engages us in the power of perspective.

  • Perspective has the power to re-center.
  • Perspective tears down tunnel vision.
  • Perspective lifts up our head and helps us to look outward.

Our default mode is to focus on ourselves and our situations. The longer we do this, we can begin to magnify things. If these are negative forces, we can eventually lose the plot.

We can zero in on various testings and trials we face.

  • Issues with our children.
  • Frustration with our job or our co-workers
  • Comparison of our spouse with another.
  • Anger towards our government and whatever issue pushes our buttons.
  • Discontent with our local church.

Out of focus

By: Eric Wüstenhagen