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Several former heroes and people of influence from the youth group era of my life have crashed and burned recently.

At times it has led me to exclaim, “Are there no heroes left who can finish well?”

I feel like the frequency in which I hear of friends and former students walking away from God or living in choices which are opposite of what God would desire; is increasing exponentially.

I feel weary as I watch people I care about wreak havoc in their own lives and the lives of others.

As I try to make sense of this personally, the common thread which emerges is selfishness.

This is not new. There really is nothing new under the sun.

  • Adam and Eve considered their view of the world better than God’s.
  • King David chose his own personal desires over that of a nation and his troops.

Resiliency

February 11, 2015

“A whole lot of Christians want to change the world, but not change ourselves.” –Christine Caine

I am a disciple maker and teacher. I’ve been doing this for 23 years and have challenged thousands to grow and change. That withstanding, my greatest challenge lies in growing two little boys into disciples!

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how to build character into them. Kids can be quick to throw in the towel when they thinks success is unlikely (adults too for that matter).

This manifests itself in not wanting to look for “lost” objects or resigning themselves to never being able to spell certain words correctly.

I have sharp kids who I know are capable. My job is to help build character to take them to the place where natural ability can be sustained. Talent is not enough.

Top Books of 2014

November 22, 2014

Each year, one of the popular features of NoSuperHeroes is a look back at the best books I’ve read in 2014.

Take a look at my list and add your favorites in the comments section below.

Here, in no particular order, are the top books of 2014.

With: Reimagining the Way You Relate to God

With: Reimagining the Way You Relate to God. I say these are in no particular order, but this book is far and away the best I have read this year. Counting the number of blog posts which drew inspiration from it illustrates this. Take a look at:

As readers of this blog know, I recently blogged the Catalyst 14 conference in Atlanta. The lineup was full of world-class speakers such as Andy Stanley, Tim Keller, Matt Chandler, Charles Duhigg, and more. Worship was led by Matt Redman.

Through my time there I interacted with a number of other volunteers from the local area. It was interesting to see a disconnect.

While the arena was full of 10,000 learners and worshippers, locals were heard to say things like:

“Can we leave early?” and “Do we really need to hear another message?”

catalyst worship

I saw many of them staring mindlessly at their cell phones while around them people were paying money to encounter God. Perhaps it was because Atlanta has a world-class event seemingly every month!

The ExtraOrdinary had become Ordinary.

Before we point the finger at Catalyst and Atlanta area volunteers, lets consider other areas.

I was shocked with a revelation the other day.

Many of the things I do to my children, I would never dream of doing in my leadership.

Parenting and leadership have many similarities even though the tools are applied in radically different ways.

Most people would describe me as a gracious, releasing, and encouraging leader. I give people the freedom to make mistakes and do not micro manage.

If I look at my parenting, I can tend to be:
– Critical rather than gracious.
– Controlling rather than releasing.
– Speaking about areas of growth far more than encouraging.
– Attempting to prevent mistakes my children might make.
– Micro-manage their lives rather than allowing them to “make a mess.”

I know parenting is very different than leading adults, but I was shocked when I looked at my “leadership” through this lens.

by Patrik Goethe

by Patrik Goethe